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What am I Tolerating?
Humans tolerate a lot. Often, we're taught not to complain, that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have, to be understanding. Not bad advice, but we can still stop tolerating what is bugging us!
When a Person has Stopped Tolerating
What Happens when one Tolerates?
The 10 Steps to a Toleration-Free Life
___ "Get" that putting up with things is good for no-one. ___ Make a list of 10 things you are tolerating at home. ___ Make the requests/take the actions to eliminate these items. ___ Make a list of 10 things you are tolerating at work. ___ Make the requests/take the actions to eliminate these items. ___ "Get" that you're getting juiced (rackets) by tolerating things! ___ Be willing and committed to being toleration-free. ___ Stop complaining: instead, make a strong request. ___ Invest $1000 to handle the tasks/chores which pain you. ___ Do steps 1-9 above, again, after you've done them once!
Ask Yourself ...
1. Why do I have tolerations in my life? How do they really work for me, in a way? 2. Am I ready to find another source of energy? How do I know I am? 3. What would it mean to have no tolerations, to be a Toleration-Free Zone?
Benefits of being Toleration-Free
There are many: 1. You will stop wasting your life, trying to manage situations that shouldn't be there in the first place. 2. You will have more energy to devote to your quality of life and to work on the other Personal Foundation Lessons. 3. You will grow more quickly because you are not distracted or weighted down with tolerations. 4. You will upgrade your community and spend time only with easy, fulfilling people. 5. You will be a model for your family and friends as to what's also possible for them in this area.
Area A. Your Home
Make a list of the 5 things you are tolerating about your home, whether or not you see a solution to each item. Pick/Identify the 5 items that you are most tolerating, whether they be big or small items. And keep it to only 5:
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Here is a list to give you some ideas: Geographic location Size, style, design of house Messy Closets unorganized Carpet needs shampooing Drafts Walls need paint Appliances need fixing Mortgage is too high Kitchen, bedroom, etc., is too small Furniture is worn
Area B. Your Family/Community Make a list of the 5 things you are tolerating about your family or community, whether or not you see a solution to each item. Pick/Identify the 5 items that you are most tolerating, whether they be big or small items. And keep it to only 5:
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Here is a list to give you some ideas: I don't get along with spouse. Kids are too . . . I have on-way friendships. A friend bores, uses me, etc., but I stick around anyway. Spark missing with spouse, friends. Neighbors bug me.
Area C. Your Work Life
Make a list of the 5 things you are tolerating about your work or professional life, whether or not you see a solution to each item. Pick/Identify the 5 items that you are most tolerating, whether they be big or small items. And keep it to only 5:
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Here is a list to give you some ideas: Working for a tough boss. In the wrong line of work. Stressed out. Inadequate pay. Unpredictable future. Wrong industry/field. Inadequate training. Need more education.
Congratulations!
You've just begun to strengthen your skill of not tolerating! This skill gets stronger and easier to use the more you recognize how much you are putting up and then grow into how little you are willing to put up with it. They key here is to continue to put up with less and less and be able to afford the consequences of this toleration-free lifestyle.
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